Witnessing Crisis
Witnessing Crisis
Witnessing Crisis
Witnessing Crisis
GUIDES
GUIDES
On supporting someone through something you can't fix.
On supporting someone through something you can't fix.
These guides are written for the people around someone in crisis — not the person experiencing it. Each one covers what the person you're supporting is going through, what happens to you while you support them, why standard support fails, and what to do instead.
These guides are written for the people around someone in crisis — not the person experiencing it. Each one covers what the person you're supporting is going through, what happens to you while you support them, why standard support fails, and what to do instead.
IN PROGRESS
IN PROGRESS
Supporter Guide Vol. I: Decline
This is your guide if someone close to you (your partner, your sibling, your parent, your friend) is watching a loved one decline, with no prospect of recovery. The death hasn’t happened yet, and everything written about it is written for them, not for you.
You may be losing them too.
What to say when they tell you the unacceptable thing. What to do when they push you away.
How to stay when there’s no end date.
Dementia, terminal illness, end-of-life caregiving, anticipatory grief.
The person you’re supporting has their own protocol: Anticipatory Grief.
Supporter Guide Vol. I: Decline
This is your guide if someone close to you (your partner, your sibling, your parent, your friend) is watching a loved one decline, with no prospect of recovery. The death hasn’t happened yet, and everything written about it is written for them, not for you.
You may be losing them too.
What to say when they tell you the unacceptable thing. What to do when they push you away.
How to stay when there’s no end date.
Dementia, terminal illness, end-of-life caregiving, anticipatory grief.
The person you’re supporting has their own protocol: Anticipatory Grief.
$37 on release. Get notified when Supporter Guide Vol. I: Decline comes out (Fall 2026):
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COMING NEXT
COMING NEXT
Supporter Guide Vol. II: Loss
This is your guide if the person you’re supporting has lost someone who cannot be replaced. The loss itself cannot be reversed.
Death after a decline, sudden death, pregnancy loss, loss of a child, pet loss, suicide loss.
Supporter Guide Vol. II: Loss
This is your guide if the person you’re supporting has lost someone who cannot be replaced. The loss itself cannot be reversed.
Death after a decline, sudden death, pregnancy loss, loss of a child, pet loss, suicide loss.
ALSO PLANNED
ALSO PLANNED
Fracture — when the person you’re supporting has a significant relationship that's broken down, partly or fully.
Collapse — when the person you’re supporting is watching something they relied on (health, mind, finances, stability, role) give way, or fail to arrive.
Threat — when the person you’re supporting is being harmed, threatened, or stripped of control by someone else, or by a system with power over them.
Compulsion — when the person you’re supporting is being harmed by something they cannot stop doing.
Fracture — when the person you’re supporting has a significant relationship that's broken down, partly or fully.
Collapse — when the person you’re supporting is watching something they relied on (health, mind, finances, stability, role) give way, or fail to arrive.
Threat — when the person you’re supporting is being harmed, threatened, or stripped of control by someone else, or by a system with power over them.
Compulsion — when the person you’re supporting is being harmed by something they cannot stop doing.
If suicidal, unable to function, or in severe distress — contact emergency services or helplines immediately:
If suicidal, unable to function, or in severe distress — contact emergency services or helplines immediately:
If suicidal, unable to function, or in severe distress — contact emergency services or helplines immediately:
If suicidal, unable to function, or in severe distress — contact emergency services or helplines immediately: